Single Women: Teach Your Married Friends What You Need From Them This Holiday Season
This time of year can be really tough for single women. Genine, a 44 year old very accomplished professional, says,"I'm fine not having a man; I have good friends, mostly married. And for New Years eve, if I don't want to be by myself, I know I can call one of them and ask if I can join them and their family. But, just once, I'd like one of them to call me and ask what I'm doing for New Years. Why do I always have to be the one to do the calling? Yes,yes, I know. People see me as so together and self-sufficient." Well, that's true, but that doesn't mean I still don't want friends to reach out to me. I get tired of having to be the one doing all the initiating with my married friends."
Genine says it better than I could have, and she may be saying exactly what you are thinking too.The fact is, though, that singles do have to be the ones to teach your married friends how to reach out to you. They are probably focused on their husband and children, but if they are good friends, they don't mean to be insensitive. Therefore, it may be up to you to broach the subject, telling them, politely, what you need. Reminding them, for instance, they could call and say if you don't have plans for New Years, why don't you join us.
My comment to Genine and to each of you: I do wish there were a man out there who would appreciate you. There is no doubt; life as a couple is certainly easier in our society. But,until or unless he comes along, use your good communication skills and enhance your friendships by telling your friends what you need from them. They probably haven't given it a thought. This could be your Holiday gift to them!
Posted by Webmaster at 12/23/2009 7:03 PM 
Categories: married friends, single women, holidays, New Year's Eve, friendship:friends
Categories: married friends, single women, holidays, New Year's Eve, friendship:friends
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