Single or Married, Xmas may be tough
For some single women, all holidays are tough. In my December newsletter , Women and the People They Love, I wrote about New Years eve -- one of the two most difficult holidays for many women.
But, with Xmas coming next week, single or married/partnered, this can be a tough time -- especially if you are not close with your family.
Barbara from SWWAN (Single Working Women's Affiliate Network) has posted an article you may find interesting and helpful.
Posted by Karen Gail Lewis at 12/21/2010 11:26 AM 
Categories: Holidays, Single Women, women, Christmas, holidays, Single women, married women, relationships
Categories: Holidays, Single Women, women, Christmas, holidays, Single women, married women, relationships
I agree it can be tough. My sibling has been single for many years and every holiday season you can tell she is depressed. I find it so sad when you go out to eat and see someone eating alone. I really do think there is someone out there for everyone.
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Hi V,
How considerate you are to be sensitive to your sister's discomfort at being around a family of married people when she is single.
I assume you are married, from your note. Therefore, you mention two things, though, that you might want to reconsider. The first is that when people eat alone in a restaurant, they may not be lonely or unhappy. It may be a pleasant experience or even just a neutral one. Attributing "sadness" to them is really giving what you imagine you would be feeling. Frankly, I recommend it for married and single people. You deserve time to yourself, and enjoying good food can be a gift to yourself. it's important to remove the bias that people eating alone are lonely or depressed. The other thing you mentioned is that there is someone out there for everyone. This is another statement that married people often make to singles -- to make them feel better. It's a lovely thought, but there is no basis to it. Well, sure, there is always some man out there who would be glad to marry any woman. If a woman has given up her values and what she feels she needs in a good relationship, sure she can find a man. But, I always recommend a woman be "appropriately choose." There is a lot of luck in her crossing paths with him -- when they are both in the same physical and emotional space at the same time. One final thought. What that phrase says, basically, is that a woman needs to have a man. That's different than she wants one -- if he is a good fit for her. I am always saying that a single woman needs to make her life like a really rich cake, and then if she meets an appropriate man for her, he is just the icing on her already good cake.
This might be a good topic for a discussion between you and your sister.
Thanks for taking the time to write.
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