Well, most likely, once the courtship was over, the glow faded, right? (If wrong, you can skip this article and consider yourself lucky.)

There is a fantasy women create that once married, the romance continues. Okay, so maybe you don't expect it all the time, but at least on Valentine's Day. There are men for whom the day holds a special meaning. It gives them one day a year where they are reminded to show how much they appreciate their wives.

On the other hand, many men know they love their wife. For them, giving a gift or card is something they'll do if she wants it, but it doesn't hold any special meaning to them.

When women want the day to be special, they are hurt or disappointed or even angry when they feel the man has just done something to appease them. It's not romantic if the secretary is sent out to buy the nightgown or order the flowers (which probably doesn't happen as often now as it used to two decades ago).

This could be a no-win situation for a man. If he does something for Valentine's Day but you know he's only doing it to please you, you won't be happy. And, if he doesn't do anything, you won't be happy.

So, women, you have a choice. You can be upset at him for not being who you want him to be, or you can remind yourself of all you do get from him, and make peace with Valentine's Day being one of the things you will not get from him. Marriage, as you well know, if filled with compromises. This could be one more you will make.